Ah... this blog used to be my political blog, but then I stopped writing in it. So, it has been remaneuvered into a more personal blog, one for a very small audience. This works out well for me anyways.
So, what kind of stuff shall I go on about here? My girlfriend? My life? My feelings, ambitions, and so forth? I don't know - I do have a Y chromosome, which kind of precludes me from getting too terribly emo and deep here, but I'll attempt to bare my soul without cringing too much. Then again, it's not something I'm terribly gung-ho about advertising, which is why this blog is suddenly unlisted. Ha! Try and search for it! You'll never find me!
My brain tends to wander sometimes. Many people have noticed this; some have asked when it's going to return. Lately, in no small part due to the various personal issues affecting dear ol' Sarah, well, I've been thinking about life, the universe, and my girlfriend lately. After all, I'm 25, my career is starting to go somewhere, Danielle and I have been together for close to a year and a half with only one major incident (my bad on that one), and it's getting close to the time where thoughts often turn towards the future. I can't imagine life without her. Can I imagine life married to her?
The answer is... I don't know. The thought of marrying her doesn't scare me as much as it used to, but I still feel some fear and trepidation about it. I'm not anxious to get married, which means I probably shouldn't, which is why I'm not rushing to do any ring shopping or anything. It works out well on her end, too - she claims that she's okay with that and is in no hurry to get married, either. However, she does occasionally mention things like a honeymoon and so forth, but it's difficult to determine how much of it is because her friends are talking about/are already married and how much of it is a genuine desire on her part to settle down. It doesn't help that she's a little too much like me; she doesn't like to rock the boat, so she'll keep her mouth shut until she can't bear it anymore, which often leads to some interesting but unpleasant consequences. I've been focusing recently on fixing that particular problem in my personality; I'm not sure if she even realizes it's a problem.
Back to the point, I'll be honest. I'm not sure if I want to get married to an aspiring tattoo artist. I mean, I was raised old-school, filled with large dreams that didn't even remotely resemble the lifestyle I was raised in. My family, especially on my mom's side, was proud, but my mom's branch was poor. She was a Young Republican in high school - heck, she was the president of her high school's Young Republican chapter. She went to USC as a Poly Sci major. She wanted to work in the UN, be an ambassador, that kind of thing.
She instead got pregnant with me. Don't think for a minute that she ever let me live that down, either. Well, I take that back; she was okay with me, for the most part. My dad, on the other hand... well, it's no mystery why they got divorced. The only mystery is why and how they put up with each other for so long.
Anyways, in a wonderful case of parental life transferrance, she filled me with all kinds of big dreams. She warned me about condoms by telling me that it's not uncommon for girls to poke holes in them to get themselves pregnant so they can take your money for child support - so, always bring your own. This is the kind of parental advice I was raised on. She also told me, as did her mother, to always think ahead, which is generally good, except that it also included such things as making sure you're with a "proper" woman, one that you wouldn't mind showing off in public, in the newspapers, and so forth. They told me to always make sure I found a woman that I could take to expensive dinners without fear, a woman that I could take to political functions without problem, one that could bear public scrutiny and all that good stuff.
In other words, I was raised to be a preppy.
Instead, I turned out like my dad - too apathetic to even be a hippy, but at least as free spirited as one. I became an atheist... no, an
Objectivist. That's not going to fly in politics or anything like that. But, it still would be nice to be with a woman that I can take to nice places, should I ever get the inclination to do so... and that's not quite as uncommon as I try to lead people around me to believe.
Instead, I'm going out with a girl that has a giant tattoo on her back and wants to put more on people professionally. I'm going out with a girl that hates large crowds, social gatherings, and is about as naturally outgoing as an engineer. In other words, I'm with a woman that I can barely take to Carrow's, who barely tolerates going to parties unless they're being hosted by people she knows VERY well, and who will never, EVER be comfortable in any sort of bar-type situation. Don't get me wrong - she'll dress up once in a while, and she's willing to eat at fairly nice places once in a while... but she feels bad about ordering more than $10 worth of food because she "doesn't eat enough to justify it." This isn't normally a bad thing - I'm not rich. In fact, it's kind of refreshing. But, as time goes on and I get more successful, this could be a bit of an issue.
So, here I am. Now, don't get me wrong. I love her deeply. She's been kind, caring, sweet... we almost never argue, and when we do, it's almost over before it's even started. We have many similar interests, and how many girls out there would be cool with going to a dusty dinosaur fossil exhibit in the middle of nowhere with myself and my best friend? Now, how many would be cool with DRIVING myself and my best friend there in HER CAR? Well, I'm with her. I just sometimes wonder if, well... I sometimes wonder what'll happen when I want to do something a little more... social? I don't know.
More on this next time.